Category: Cycle Breaker
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Trauma bonding is not a character flaw and it’s not “unhealthy love” – it’s a biochemical trap. And it can be understood. You know the relationship isn’t good for you. Maybe you’ve known for a long time. And yet you keep thinking back to the good times, missing them, feeling guilty when you pull away…
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You’ve gone no contact. Maybe with your mother, your father, an ex-partner. In your mind, you know exactly why: the repeated boundary violations, the feeling of having to shrink yourself to be loved. And yet — there’s that pull in your stomach as their birthday approaches. That 3 a.m. thought, “Maybe I was too harsh.”…
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“They’re still your parents.” “They raised you, fed you, put you through school.” “You don’t just cut off your own mother.” Anyone who has gone no contact with narcissistic parents knows these lines by heart — sometimes from relatives, sometimes from acquaintances who only know half the story, and often from their own inner voice,…
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Grey rocking is everywhere right now. Every other reel, every advice thread: become the grey rock. Show no reaction. Take away the other person’s stage, and they’ll lose interest. It sounds like an elegant solution to a problem that doesn’t really have one. And yes – grey rocking can work. But the question almost nobody…
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A while back, I wrote about why our individualistic culture provides fertile ground for narcissistic traits — and why more collectivist cultures, like Scandinavian countries, rarely show the same scale of the problem. That argument still holds. But it doesn’t answer the question I get asked most often since then: “Was my ex really a…
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Scroll through TikTok or Instagram right now and you’ll find video after video: “5 signs your mom is a narcissist,” “how to go no contact in 3 steps,” “POV: you finally went no contact.” Going no contact has become a viral topic — complete with trending sounds, oversimplified checklists, and merch. And somewhere in the…