Category: Narcissism
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Trauma bonding is not a character flaw and it’s not “unhealthy love” – it’s a biochemical trap. And it can be understood. You know the relationship isn’t good for you. Maybe you’ve known for a long time. And yet you keep thinking back to the good times, missing them, feeling guilty when you pull away…
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You’ve gone no contact. Maybe with your mother, your father, an ex-partner. In your mind, you know exactly why: the repeated boundary violations, the feeling of having to shrink yourself to be loved. And yet — there’s that pull in your stomach as their birthday approaches. That 3 a.m. thought, “Maybe I was too harsh.”…
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You’re in a meeting, and your boss praises you to the skies one week — then tears your work apart in front of the whole team the next, as if you’d never done anything right. You go home thinking: I know this feeling. You’ve felt this exact floor-dropping-out-from-under-you sensation before — with your ex. That’s…
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“They’re still your parents.” “They raised you, fed you, put you through school.” “You don’t just cut off your own mother.” Anyone who has gone no contact with narcissistic parents knows these lines by heart — sometimes from relatives, sometimes from acquaintances who only know half the story, and often from their own inner voice,…
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Grey rocking is everywhere right now. Every other reel, every advice thread: become the grey rock. Show no reaction. Take away the other person’s stage, and they’ll lose interest. It sounds like an elegant solution to a problem that doesn’t really have one. And yes – grey rocking can work. But the question almost nobody…
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A while back, I wrote about why our individualistic culture provides fertile ground for narcissistic traits — and why more collectivist cultures, like Scandinavian countries, rarely show the same scale of the problem. That argument still holds. But it doesn’t answer the question I get asked most often since then: “Was my ex really a…
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Scroll through TikTok or Instagram right now and you’ll find video after video: “5 signs your mom is a narcissist,” “how to go no contact in 3 steps,” “POV: you finally went no contact.” Going no contact has become a viral topic — complete with trending sounds, oversimplified checklists, and merch. And somewhere in the…
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In the beginning, everything feels intense. Almost magical. But over time, something shifts. You start to feel unsure of yourself, exhausted — and somehow less and less like you. If you’ve been wondering whether your relationship is actually good for you, these 7 signs might bring some clarity. 1. You Feel Guilty for Everything No…
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Narcissism is everywhere these days. Anyone who spends time on social media knows that terms like “narcissistic personality disorder” and related toxic behaviors—gaslighting, flying monkeys, emotional manipulation—have become part of our collective vocabulary. Countless creators, videos, and posts focus on narcissism in relationships, families, and workplaces. And more and more people are speaking openly about…
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The silent collapse of self-confidence Sometimes, after a relationship, nothing remains but silence.But something echoes in this silence—an echo of questions, doubts, and memories.You try to recognize yourself again, but your inner image seems blurred.Everything you thought you knew about yourself seems to have dissolved. This is how it feels when someone has shaken your…