Tag: childhood trauma
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You’ve gone no contact. Maybe with your mother, your father, an ex-partner. In your mind, you know exactly why: the repeated boundary violations, the feeling of having to shrink yourself to be loved. And yet — there’s that pull in your stomach as their birthday approaches. That 3 a.m. thought, “Maybe I was too harsh.”…
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“They’re still your parents.” “They raised you, fed you, put you through school.” “You don’t just cut off your own mother.” Anyone who has gone no contact with narcissistic parents knows these lines by heart — sometimes from relatives, sometimes from acquaintances who only know half the story, and often from their own inner voice,…
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Grey rocking is everywhere right now. Every other reel, every advice thread: become the grey rock. Show no reaction. Take away the other person’s stage, and they’ll lose interest. It sounds like an elegant solution to a problem that doesn’t really have one. And yes – grey rocking can work. But the question almost nobody…
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A while back, I wrote about why our individualistic culture provides fertile ground for narcissistic traits — and why more collectivist cultures, like Scandinavian countries, rarely show the same scale of the problem. That argument still holds. But it doesn’t answer the question I get asked most often since then: “Was my ex really a…
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Scroll through TikTok or Instagram right now and you’ll find video after video: “5 signs your mom is a narcissist,” “how to go no contact in 3 steps,” “POV: you finally went no contact.” Going no contact has become a viral topic — complete with trending sounds, oversimplified checklists, and merch. And somewhere in the…
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Maybe you know this feeling: You’re exhausted, tense, restless inside – and no matter what you try… your body just won’t calm down. You want to relax.But your system won’t let you. This isn’t because you’re “too sensitive.” Or because you’re “not trying hard enough.” It’s because your nervous system has learned to stay in…
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Sometimes, everyday life just feels like too much.Too loud. Too fast. Too overwhelming. Maybe you notice that you get irritated more quickly.That your body feels tense, even when you try to relax.Or that you keep functioning—but feel exhausted inside. This isn’t random.And it’s not a personal failure. Your nervous system is trying to protect you.…
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An overstimulated nervous system is not the result of random events or just “a bit too much stress.”More often, it is rooted in experiences that have shaped the psyche over years — sometimes even decades — quietly, and often without conscious awareness. Over time, these experiences can manifest as psychosomatic and physical symptoms.The body learns…
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Disclaimer: This article is intended for educational and reflective purposes only.It does not replace professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic diagnosis or treatment. ADHD, trauma-related disorders, and their potential overlap are complex clinical topics that require individual assessment by qualified professionals. If you experience psychological distress, persistent symptoms, or uncertainty about a diagnosis, please seek guidance…
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For narcissistic parents, their children are not independent individuals.They are merely projection surfaces and symbols of self-aggrandizement—or of a profoundly distorted image of hatred. Narcissistic mothers and fathers do not have children in order to give them unconditional love. They have children in order to be loved by them. “Unconditional” does not exist in a…