Tag: narcissistic abuse
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A while back, I wrote about why our individualistic culture provides fertile ground for narcissistic traits — and why more collectivist cultures, like Scandinavian countries, rarely show the same scale of the problem. That argument still holds. But it doesn’t answer the question I get asked most often since then: “Was my ex really a…
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Scroll through TikTok or Instagram right now and you’ll find video after video: “5 signs your mom is a narcissist,” “how to go no contact in 3 steps,” “POV: you finally went no contact.” Going no contact has become a viral topic — complete with trending sounds, oversimplified checklists, and merch. And somewhere in the…
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In the beginning, everything feels intense. Almost magical. But over time, something shifts. You start to feel unsure of yourself, exhausted — and somehow less and less like you. If you’ve been wondering whether your relationship is actually good for you, these 7 signs might bring some clarity. 1. You Feel Guilty for Everything No…
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An overstimulated nervous system is not the result of random events or just “a bit too much stress.”More often, it is rooted in experiences that have shaped the psyche over years — sometimes even decades — quietly, and often without conscious awareness. Over time, these experiences can manifest as psychosomatic and physical symptoms.The body learns…
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For narcissistic parents, their children are not independent individuals.They are merely projection surfaces and symbols of self-aggrandizement—or of a profoundly distorted image of hatred. Narcissistic mothers and fathers do not have children in order to give them unconditional love. They have children in order to be loved by them. “Unconditional” does not exist in a…
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Part 1 “The social world is a stage, a complicated stage even, with an audience, performers, and outsiders, with a auditorium and backdrops. The social scientist who stylizes this element of self-expression into his concepts—role, sanction, socialization, etc.—only takes in what reality offers him.” – Lord Ralf Dahrendorf It is not uncommon in the social…
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Narcissism is everywhere these days. Anyone who spends time on social media knows that terms like “narcissistic personality disorder” and related toxic behaviors—gaslighting, flying monkeys, emotional manipulation—have become part of our collective vocabulary. Countless creators, videos, and posts focus on narcissism in relationships, families, and workplaces. And more and more people are speaking openly about…
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Part 3 from the series: Trauma in the body Many people live with a level of tension in their body that they barely notice anymore.Shoulders slightly raised.A neck that never truly relaxes.A belly that feels held rather than soft.A subtle state of readiness, as if something could happen at any moment. This tension often feels…
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The silent collapse of self-confidence Sometimes, after a relationship, nothing remains but silence.But something echoes in this silence—an echo of questions, doubts, and memories.You try to recognize yourself again, but your inner image seems blurred.Everything you thought you knew about yourself seems to have dissolved. This is how it feels when someone has shaken your…
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Part 1 of the serie: Trauma in the body Sometimes the body reacts before the mind can understand.A sound, a scent, a gesture — and suddenly something tightens inside us.Our heart races, breath shortens, stomach clenches. We know we are safe — and yet, we don’t feel safe. This is not weakness.It is memory. Trauma…